Do I need to be confirmed to be married in the Church?

Full Question

Does a baptized Catholic who has received first confession and First Communion need to be confirmed to be married in the Catholic Church?

Answer

While it is not an absolute requirement that Catholics be confirmed before they are married in the Church, confirmation before marriage is something the Church strongly urges. The Code of Canon Law states:

Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of confirmation are to receive it before being admitted to marriage, if this can be done without grave inconvenience. (CIC 1065)









10 comments

  1. mpho Reply

    How long does it take for a person who is not confirmed so that he or she can be married?

    1. concepcion Reply

      Inquire about the RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation of Adults) in your parish. Both sacraments can be done during the process. God bless 🙂

    2. Emmett Hubarth Reply

      You should check with your local parish, but generally one is required to attend RCIA classes, which go from 8 or 9 months to a year. Confirmations generally take place during the Easter Vigil. You will also need to take marriage instructions from the Church first as well.

    3. Sheila Reply

      It depends on the local Bishop’s guidelines. Unconfirmed Catholics are often put in RCIA because of resources, but RCIA is NOT the place for a Baptized Catholic. You are NOT a convert and you should not be treated like you are.

      1. mb503 Reply

        No … They want me to go through RCIA even though I already completed my religious education and my sacramental records were tampered with… But in order to go to RCIA which I’m willing to do they want my marriage blessed … I get SO many different answers about this it’s quite confusing …it’s been a whole very painful year for me … I’m hoping the hold up must be some investigation with the Bishops … I hope anyway…I want to do this at my church… I could go someplace else but the whole painful story would have to be explained again and I think I’ve suffered enough… But maybe God wants me to suffer… I am dreading Lent … It’s so important to me even though I know I was sealed to a God at my baptism I want to do this more than I want to breathe.

  2. Matlhodi Elizabeth Maboe Reply

    I was a born in Dutch Reformed Church and married to a Catholic man, went through all the classes. I am already confirme. Because we got married Home Affairs now we going to make it right before the Altar. My question is that can we be married in church when my husband is not confirmed? He received his first Holy Communion and he was an Alter Server. Must he complete the classes

  3. mb503 Reply

    I have been trying to get confirmed but they won’t let me because my husband is Methodist even though we were married in a church…

    They won’t confirm me … My husband doesn’t think my marriage should have anything to do with my confirmation … I’ve been working on this a whole year already … It’s quite upsetting …

    Here’s the kicker… Even if my marriage isn’t blessed … If my husband ever divorced me ( which won’t happen) but if it did I would still need an annulment … Scratching my head… Like seriously ?

    1. Sheila Reply

      All Baptized Catholics have a canonical right to Confirmation. It shouldn’t have anything to do with your marriage; it would seem to me that the ‘worst case’ scenario would be to ask you to get convalidated at the time of your Confirmation so that your marriage is recognized sacramentally by the Catholic Church. A lot depends on the local Bishop’s policies, but the fact that your husband is Methodist really should have no bearing on anything. I have found that most non-Catholic spouses are perfectly willing to be convalidated for the sake of their Catholic husband/wife because they love that person and it’s important to them. Are they telling you he has to convert?

  4. Lorena Reply

    My husband and I have been married for almost 20 years. He has never received the sacrament of confirmation and sadly is not a practicing catholic so I truly doubt he will ever make the effort to get confirmed. I had a concern that our marriage wasn’t valid but upon talking to various priests in my diocese, marriage is valid.

  5. Kelly Gregg Reply

    Question: Must I be confirmed to have my child baptized in the Catholic church?

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