I have heard a lot of parents complain that their children do not listen to them.
I am sharing my thoughts on this based on my experience teaching children for over a decade.
You wonder why your kids seem to be ‘programmed’ to do the exact opposite of your instructions and directions? They seem to be unable to listen and follow your direction. These are probably part of the reason why:
- Their trust in your “plans" gradually diminishes when you’re proven wrong, especially if you engaged them in a fight to follow your own directions. They’d probably be inclined not to listen to you as much next time.
- You might consider letting them have their way in smaller things so that in major things you can have the grounds to negotiate with them with a little coercion. If for instance you’re uptight about even the tiniest things, they’d rebel against you in everything including serious matters. Pick your fights carefully.
- You do not want to appear like a know-it-all to your kids. Make them see everyone can make mistakes; everyone is in need of salvation and help. They’d likely listen to you if they have the feeling you think of them as equals and are probably more experienced to help them based upon your previous experience (and mistakes) in each matter. When you establish yourself as a god (who doesn’t make mistakes) before them, they cannot relate with you, they cannot share with you because you’ll judge and condemn instead of encourage them.
Listen to your kids, to what they want and need. When they give you corrections sometimes, accept it and try it out. It shows them they matter and that anyone can be wrong. This will make them more likely to listen to you when you counsel them.
From : https://caticor.com/parenting-tip-child-doesnt-listen/