Should I get confirmed at a parish which allows openly homosexual couples to receive Communion?

By August 21, 2016 Q&A

Full Question

I am thirteen years old. I don’t want to get confirmed at my parish because I don’t believe everything they teach. For example, my pastor knowingly allows openly homosexual couples to receive Holy Communion. If I get confirmed there, doesn’t that mean I am accepting the practices of my parish?


Being confirmed at your church does not mean you accept their unorthodox practices. You are receiving a sacrament that does a holy work within you. Confirmation, like baptism, imprints a spiritual mark on your soul, something you can receive only once in your life (CCC 1317). It’s the sacrament that gives you the fullness of the Holy Spirit, increases and deepens baptismal grace, and incorporates you more firmly into Christ (CCC 1316).
The Catechism of the Catholic Church also says,

Every baptized person not yet confirmed can and should receive the sacrament of confirmation. Since baptism, confirmation, and Eucharist form a unity, it follows that “the faithful are obliged to receive this sacrament at the appropriate time,” for without confirmation and Eucharist, baptism is certainly valid and efficacious, but Christian initiation remains incomplete. (CCC 1306)



  • CJ says:

    Yea, but a holy priest and a holy parish are going to benefit your spiritual growth post-confirmation more than a parish that has embraced the world and jettisoned core tenets of the faith. The sacrament is valid, but find a holy priest! God bless you.
    (Catholic say you are irking my last nerve with these ‘soft’ articles which softpedal the faith or obscure core truths.)

  • Zorsha says:

    God bless brother or sister. This spiruariual journey is for you and you alone decide if you are in the right place to be confirmed or not. However, your spiritual journey is more important than your judgement of others at your Parrish. Don’t let the enemy distract you with judgement of others. Remember these are God’s children too, your neighbors worthy of compassion. May your journey be filled with love & light

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