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Pornography: What’s the Problem and how to stop?

If you’ve ever watched a television show about the deep sea, you’ve probably seen a creature known as the anglerfish. Its bizarre and gruesome appearance is not easily forgotten because the needle-like teeth of the fish are so long that it is unable to shut its own mouth. Protruding from its head is a bioluminescent lure that dangles above its jaws, inviting unsuspecting prey to wander toward the glow. Smaller fish are entranced by the harmless light, and lose their lives at the moment they least expect.

In much the same way, millions of men have become entranced by the allure of pornography. At first the habit may seem to be only harmless entertainment. But once the damaging effects of lust emerge, these men feel unable to break the habit and erase the memories.

Thankfully, God is able to redeem not only our souls, but even our desires. Christ did not die in order to eliminate sexual attractions; he offered his life to ransom our souls and to teach us how to love. To experience the fullness of his redemption and the freedom he wishes to give, we must begin by admitting our fault and seeking his help and forgiveness. To break free from pornography, a man must first choose to open his eyes to the harm that it causes. It damages children, wives, and the women in the porn industry, as well as the viewer.

 

The Problem of Porn

Recent brain research has discovered that with each visual experience, we literally grow new brain. In fact, synapses between brain cells are either strengthened or pruned based upon how we choose to live. Therefore, a man can shape the way his brain views women based upon what he places before his eyes. Through pornography, a man learns to measure the value of a woman based upon how much lust he feels for her. He may try to convince himself that that isn’t a problem, but in reality his ability to love is being crippled by it. Without realizing it, he comes to view the world through porn goggles, and assumes that constant lust is natural. When he eventually tries to love a woman, he’ll find himself confused and disappointed.

One reason for this is that pornography trains a person to get bored with commitment. No matter how perfect a model might be, the man hooked on porn will leave her within a matter of seconds in order to view other women. Without realizing it, he is robbing himself of the ability to be captivated by a woman. If the most seductive supermodels fail to hold his interest for more than a few seconds, how long will his bride keep his attention? He has made himself into a glutton who is never filled.

Not surprisingly, research on people who looked at porn found that they were less likely to be satisfied with their partner’s affection, physical appearance, sexual curiosity, and sexual performance.[2] Their behavior has led them away from what they were seeking in the first place. In the words of one husband, “The best way to ruin pleasure is to make it your goal.”[3]

The man who views pornography experiences a deadness inside, yet he returns again and again to what only leaves him feeling emptier than before. One recovering porn addict admitted that viewing pornography “brings intense disappointment, precisely because it is not what I’m really searching for. It’s like a hungry person standing outside the window of a restaurant thinking that they’re going to get fed.”[4] If God has created us to love as he loves, it is no wonder that those who view porn are never satisfied.

The fact that strip clubs refer to themselves as “adult” entertainment and “gentlemen’s” clubs proves that no matter how far we fall, we still feel a need to identify with authentic manhood. God has stamped into us the call to love in a noble and sacrificial way, as well as the desire to behold what is beautiful. However, when these God-given desires are warped through porn, we miss the point of why God made us men. Instead of dying to ourselves for the sake of women, we sacrifice them on the altar of lust.

When a husband is hooked on pornography, he’s only a shadow of the man his wife and children need him to be. His ability to be the spiritual leader of his family is stripped away from him. For lack of a better description, his addiction could be considered a spiritual vasectomy. Until his heart is changed, his ability to transmit the spiritual life is gone. Likewise, so long as a single man is trapped in the habit of porn, he could miss the vocation to which God is calling him.

Saint Alphonsus Liguori once noted that “When a raven finds a dead body, its first act is to pluck out the eyes, and the first injury that [impurity] inflicts on the soul is to take away the light of the things of God.”[5] It is not surprising, then, that so many men wander away from the Church when they begin to fall prey to sexual sins, which blind us to spiritual realities. Some of these men may still attend Mass, yet they cannot escape the shame of living a double life.

When one’s fantasy life is revealed, the damage becomes impossible to ignore. upon discovering her father’s online porn collection, one young girl stormed away from him, saying, “I thought you were a better man than that.” Another teenage daughter said, “I found out my dad looks at porn. I used to look up to him. Now I can’t even look at him.”

Although these things are not easy to read, there is hope. No matter how deep the wounds or severe the addiction, God is capable of healing anyone who comes to him with a sincere heart.

 

Ten Steps to Break Free from Porn

1. Go to confession. Through confession, you receive forgiveness and added grace to help conquer temptation in the future. You’ll also have someone to whom you are accountable. As the Bible says, “Two are better than one. . . . If they fall, one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up” (Eccles. 4:9–10).

2. Go to Mass and Eucharistic Adoration. No greater grace exists in the Church than the Blessed Sacrament.

3. Develop a devotion to Mary and St. Joseph. Carry a rosary with you at all times, and pray it often. Invoke our Lady’s intercession when you feel tempted. She is the woman who will restore your ability to view all other women honorably. The Church honors St. Joseph as the guardian of virgins and the terror of demons. He is a powerful ally against sins that violate the dignity of women.

4. Fast. There is tremendous spiritual power in this ancient practice. (See e5men.org)

5. Be active and productive. Saint Robert Bellarmine said, “Flee idleness, for no one is more exposed to such temptations than he who has nothing to do.”[6]

6. Put a filter on your computer. See filterreview.com and seenoevilonline.com for examples.

7. Use sacramentals. Place a holy image, crucifix, or statue where you’re tempted to view pornography. You could also make the sign of the cross or bless yourself with holy water when you feel tempted.

8. Read Scripture. The Word of God has power to drive out the evil one.

9. Pray for your temptations. Whenever an impure image comes to mind, pray for the grace to overcome the temptation. But do not stop there. Let the image serve as a reminder to pray for that woman’s conversion. As strange as it sounds, the antidote to pornography is to love the women in pornography. Feel responsible for them as your sisters in humanity. According to Pope John Paul II, God “assigns the dignity of every woman as a task to every man.”[7]

10. Don’t be discouraged. The battle is not an easy one, so do not give up if you fall. Persevere and you will win the crown.

 

The Church’s message of purity is not a condemnation but a calling to authentic human love. It is an invitation for men to master their impulses and to allow Christ to transform the way they view women. When this happens, they become who they are—sons of God and earthly icons of the Heavenly Father. St. Josemaría Escrivá said, “There is need for a crusade of manliness and purity to counteract and nullify the savage work of those who think man is a beast. And that crusade is your work.”[8]

Therefore, if you own any pornography, destroy it and defend your ability to love all women with a clean heart.

 

 

“The alternative is clear: either man governs his passions and finds peace, or he lets himself be dominated by them and becomes unhappy.”

Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2339

 

“Each man must look within himself to see whether she who was entrusted to him as a sister in humanity . . . has not become in his heart an object of adultery.”[1]

Pope John Paul II

 

“No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you to be tempted beyond your strength, but with the temptation will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.”

1 Corinthians 10:13

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[1] Pope John Paul II, Mulieris Dignitatem, 14.
[2] D. Zillman and J. Bryant, “Pornography’s impact on sexual satisfaction,” Journal of Applied Social Psychology 18 (1988): 438–453.
[3] J. Budziszewski, “Designed for Sex: What We Lose When We Forget What Sex Is For,” touchstonemag.com.
[4] John-Paul Day, as quoted in Edward Marriott, “Men and Porn,” The Guardian (8 November 2003).
[5] Saint Alphonsus Liguori, The Dignities and Duties of the Priest.
[6] R. E. Guiley, The Quotable Saint (New York: Checkmark Books, 2002), 135.
[7] Pope John Paul II, general audience, 24 November 1982. Man and Woman He Created Them (Boston: Pauline Books & Media, 2006), 519.
[8] Josemaría Escrivá, The Way (New York: Scepter, 2001), 40










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  1. thom Reply

    God help us

  2. julius Reply

    Praise the lord I like it verry much .Amen.

  3. Michael Reply

    "Instead of dying to ourselves for the sake of women" – I disagree on this one point. It implies that the responsibility to sacrifice oneself for others is one-sided rather than mutual. Women, too, have a responsibility to sacrifice their selfishness for the good of others. More than that, the self-sacrifice should be not for the sake of women (or men) but for the sake of God. To claim otherwise borders on idolatry.

    1. barbie Reply

      I beg to disagree to you Michael… As a follower of Jesus Christ, he should do what Jesus would do. what would Jesus do if He was on a situation like that? definitely, HE would risk everything just for the sake of others , even HIS life. Jesus said, Love thy neighbors as I have loved you, and love also means being selfish, more so sacrificing. How can this be a form of idolatry? when were just following what GOD thought us? an idolatry for me, is worshiping other entities aside from GOD, by this act of sacrificing (by dying) does this mean you automatically worship women? No, of course not, it only means you love them, nothing more nothing less. and by doing this, ur just being a true Christian, a true Follower of JESUS CHRIST. and yes your right :), in everything we do, we must do it for CHRIST, for HIM and HIM alone. we must spread love, and love and love, but we must worship only HIM alone.

  4. Gilbert Amengai Reply

    To those who might be faulting this article based on its literally expressions or examples,probably stand the risk of losing its true spiritual and informative values. As for me, I sincerely thank the Arthur of this article.why? Because I have been struggling with this sin for the past 14 years.I have confessed it severally and at times, I get discouraged and even blame myself for failing to overcome it,even with the numerous graces’ and counsellings’ I have received from God and his priests.For someone to think and package this beautiful article is doing no wrong but simply preaching to us (poor sinners) whom by the special grace of God, we will do our best in implementing its total recommendations, perhaps we might be delivered this time. With great sense of attitude,I sincerely appreciate the Catholic Online network for their good works. I humbly appeal that they should kindly pray for me to be delivered from the sins of pornographic watching, masturbations, lust and adultery. Amen. I will be glad if I keep on receiving prayers and psychological help to overcome these sins. From Gilbert Amengai.

  5. joan Reply

    Nice article,am inspired to live a life free of porn,

  6. liberty Reply

    Partly cleansed my heart ❤ and touched my soul to such an extent of identifying the truth that I was 96% lost….pray for me …..i patly addicted for years…now I have nothing to hide or to be worried about because I got also big solutions to the problem.

  7. Cecilia Reply

    Thank God for the word, have mercy on me God through jesus christ. Watching porn is something I’ve never mentioned during my confession time bcoz am to emberessed to say it later on masturbation. I believe this is my turning point! St. Joeseph be my companion, this word could nt hav come at a better time than this. Forgive me Lord and and deliever me entirely in the mighty name of Jesus, Amen.

  8. steve Reply

    I struggle with this affliction also, I hate it so so very much , so could you send prayers my way thank you in advance

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