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Three Reasons to Be Porn-Free




There are good reasons to decide to live a porn-free life: it’s a sin; it can be addictive; it objectifies people; and so forth.

In this post, however, I want to share three self-interested reasons to be porn free that are, perhaps, just as valid but rarely discussed.

1. So that you can be happy

Though pornography promises us many things, it, as habitual porn users can attest, never delivers.

Porn promises us freedom, but we become enslaved; it promises us intimacy, but we become isolated; it promises us excitement, but we become bored; it promises us “adult” entertainment, and we become increasingly juvenile.

Pornography, as is the case with all sinful things, promises us many things but leaves us with less than we had in the first place.

St. Josemaria Escriva sums it up well: “When you have sought the company of a sensual satisfaction, what loneliness afterward!”

All too often it’s made to seem as if we had only one of two options: repress or indulge. But saying that we need pornography to avoid sexual repression is like saying we need obesity to avoid anorexia. There’s a third option. We call it “health.”

Sexual health requires the virtue of chastity, which, it may surprise you to know, has nothing to do with uncomfortable belts. Quite the opposite, in fact! Chastity means that one is in control of his sexual desire rather than one’s sexual desire being in control of him.

Look at how the Catechism of the Catholic Church puts it:

Chastity includes an apprenticeship in self-mastery which is a training in human freedom. The alternative is clear: either man governs his passions and finds peace, or he lets himself be dominated by them and becomes unhappy (2339).

2. So that you can be interesting

If you’ve ever met a person hooked on porn, interesting is unlikely to be an adjective you’d use to describe him. This is because pornography turns a person in on himself; his eyes grow dim; his world becomes smaller, boring, and drearily predictable.

In the following one-minute clip, Metallica’s front man, James Hetfield, tells of how the hooking up and drunkenness he was steeped in as a younger man compared to the life he lives now, a married man with children, was “so predictable [and] boring . . . the results were the same.”

If you want to be a more interesting human being, begin taking the steps necessary to be porn free.

3. So that you can have a better sex life

Filling your head with degrading fantasies and thousands (or tens of thousands) of women will not only make you bored with one natural woman; it may make you emotionally and physically incapable of having a normal sex life ever again.

“Consuming pornography,” writes Virginie Despentes, “does not lead to more sex, it leads to more porn. Much like eating McDonalds every day will accustom you to food that (although enjoyable) is essentially not food, pornography conditions the consumer to being satisfied with an impression of extreme sex rather than the real.”

In 1984, participants in a university study of forty-six male undergraduates rated their partner’s attractiveness lower after viewing only twenty-six slides and one six-minute video of attractive nude females exhibiting sexual behavior.

How can it affect us physiologically? Clinical psychologist Dr. MaryAnne Layden writes that, in her clinical experience, she has seen that “pornography damages the sexual performance of the viewers.” “Pornography viewers,” she writes, “tend to have problems with premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Having spent so much time in unnatural sexual experiences with paper, celluloid, and cyberspace, they seem to find it difficult to have sex with a real human being. Pornography is raising their expectation and demand for types and amounts of sexual experiences; at the same time it is reducing their ability to experience sex.”

So there you have it. If you’d like to be a happy, interesting person with a good sex life, begin taking the necessary steps to free yourself today!

 

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Matt Fradd works for Covenant Eyes, and is the author of the new book Delivered: True Stories of Men and Women who Turned from Porn to PurityHe is also the founder of The Porn Effect (www.theporneffect.com) a site dedicated to exposing the reality behind the fantasy of porn and offering help to those seeking authentic sexual liberation.

Read more from Matt at his website www.mattfradd.com.





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  1. ida Reply

    One of the best articles I read is #1. It’s basically legalized positution. Most men have had their fair share with this epidemic (porn + masturbation) since childhood and trying to raise a son to be void of the temptation and shielding them from adult situations when it’s pushed upon our children even in toddler age TV gyrating and using suggestive wording.

    http://www.theblaze.com/contributions/4-things-that-are-hurting-your-wife-and-killing-your-marriage/

  2. Camilo Romero Reply

    Free porn only if have a partner in bed rather than get someone you don’t know!!

  3. love life Reply

    Well said, if you human God gave you brain,make your choices,think what benefits you in human way ,have limits in your life,be healthy and happy , enjoy life,no one is responsible for your stupid decisions you take as its your choice but don’t blame it in God,government,social media,friends ,partner,ore bed weather ,u have brain so use them for your sake.

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