This isn’t a straightforward yes-or-no answer, since every case is different. However, if you’re talking about if two people who are incompatible and unfit for marriage should marry just because of a pregancy i’d say: no. Pregnancy should not be a primary reason to marry.

I advise that they wait till the child is born to make a decision. This will help them discern their relationship even better and know if they’re able to be married or not.

If they discover, in the course of the discernment, that they’re not compatible, they can give the baby up for adoption as this is better than either having a teenage mom raise the baby or a couple who don’t like each other marrying and raising a child in a hostile environment. Adoption brings it’s own challenges but is better since it gives the child the chance to grow up in a loving, stable home.

If they discover they’re compatible with each other and can bear the financial and emotional weight of starting a family, then they can be married when they’re ready.

There’s need to consult with a professional – a priest, a counselor or someone very wise to weigh their options rather than simply take any option that seems okay to them at a particular time. Needless to say, abortion is not one of the options to be discussed.

3 Comments

  • Roni Jaure says:

    disagree, I think they should get married. The child has two parents even it the marriage doesn’t last both parents will have rights and responsibility for the child. Sadly not married increases odds of abortion, dad might just save the life of his child.

  • Roni Jaure says:

    disagree, I think they should get married. The child has two parents even it the marriage doesn’t last both parents will have rights and responsibility for the child. Sadly not married increases odds of abortion, dad might just save the life of his child.

  • Rita Arriaga says:

    I just agree they should get married. I have lived through this . Believe me it’s so important. I have 11 children. My first marriage my husband was abusive. We survived .The children need their mother. This world is to much with the idea of young girls giving up their children. The road is difficult but it doesn’t mean that they can’t do it. Looking back I am so happy that I kept my oldest son the reason for us getting married. He and all of my children are the best thing in my life besides my 2ND husband.Now we have 19 grandchildren.

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