Full Question
Is it true that sexual intercourse between a married couple is sinful if the spouses do it with lust for each other?
Answer
I realize that in our culture the word “lust” can be understood quite broadly, from “lusting after a chocolate bar” to simply finding another person to be sexually attractive.
But for the Catholic Church, to lust is to seek sexual pleasure in another person solely for one’s own pleasure without regard for the other person. The Catechism of the Catholic Church states:
“Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes” (CCC 2351).
To have sexual feelings for one’s spouse or to enjoy sexual pleasure with one’s spouse is fine and according to God’s design. But to use one’s spouse as an object of pleasure without concern for the spouse is mortally sinful.
Reply gotten from Catholic Answers.
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Tom,
Firstly.i’m not sure if you are a Catholic,(Christian) or not.If you’re not,what are you doing on this site?? And if you are a Catholic/Christian,how can you say that??
Either way.i feel sorry for you,and i’m gonna say a prayer for your soul right now,Amen.
P,S, God still loves you man!!
Eva, are you a troll?
This is all interesting. My husband and I used NFP and welcomed our first baby 11 months after marriage. I have in many cases abstained from sex as a protest to marital issues and because I don’t believe I’ll get as much sexual gratification as he will. Although he desires me sexually, I do not always give myself to him. We’re both guilty of self pleasure, but we see it as a means to relieve ourselves of the lack of sex between us. Are we commiting sin?
How can one see his/her spouse as a sex tool? Is it possible? Even if it is, what if d other person loves and enjoys it that way, is it still a sin?
John please do not be influenced by some of the outrageous comments on this subject. Sex is a gift from God for married couples. Many times the husband and wife are not on the same wave length at the same time. You have committed NO sin and your lustful thoughts are normal. The Catholic Church sometimes is very good at “dictating” what it feels is God’s intent with no basis.
Every doctrine and belief of the church is based on scripture and reason. Again, you’re giving empty arguments and are probably just trying to justify not having to feel bad about regarding your spouse as a sex object.