My non-Catholic husband claims that the Eucharist should make me a better Christian than he is. Is that so?

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My Protestant husband claims that if it is true that I receive Christ in the Eucharist and belong to the one true Church, then I should be a better Christian than he is. Is he right?


Your husband is in no place to judge the state of your soul. Nor are you. Neither of you has a way of knowing how holy you would be if you were not receiving the sacraments. Nor do either of you know how much better he would be if he were receiving them. Certainly, there is no way to draw near to Christ and not be affected by him. We have the very words of Jesus on the matter: “He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise him up at the last day” (John 6:54). Only Christ knows how holy you are. But we can certainly know that you are better off for receiving him than not.

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  1. The very fact that one is close to Jesus called the Christ does not take away the nature of us humans, which makes us all sinful. Just look at Saint Peter, who renegated Jesus, when He needed him most. And no one, but our Virgin Mary, was closer to Jesus than him. To believe that if you are religous, you cannot committ sins anymore is not correct. The closer we are to Jesus, thouhg, like by receiving Him in the Holy Communion, helps us to sin lesser and lesser, to remain in “mortal sin status” for shorter and shorter periods till, eventually, thanks to His Grace, we become free of mortal sins, but still committing venial sins.
    To believe that a person, that considers himself or herself a good Catholic, means that he or she does not committ sins is very dangerous, because that is the very reasons why many people do not go to church any longer, because they say: “Looks at all these people in the church, I know they are crooks, and look at them, they all pray and take communion….. it does not work. it must be not true” and they lose their faith. Receiving Jesus in the Holy Communion or being a Catholic is not a tool, a formula to be holy, but it is building a relationship with God, that eventually will take you to Him for good, and receive eternal life.

    1. Jesus most certainly DID create a religion: “And I tell you, you are Peter, and on this rock I will build my church, and the powers of hell shall not prevail against it.” Matthew 16:18
      And Jesus has no problem with divisions in the name of religion: “Do you think that I have come to give peace on earth? No, I tell you, but rather division; for henceforth in one house there will be five divided, three against two and two against three; they will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against her mother, mother-in-law against her daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.” Luke 12:51-53
      But the answer misses the point: The very act of accepting the Eucharist as the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Jesus de facto makes you a better Christian: By accepting that idea, you have submitted to Christ’s words and shown a faith in Him and His truth that transcends logic and human reason. When He first proclaimed it, even His disciples– with the living, breathing Christ standing in front of Him– said, “This is a hard saying; who can listen to it?” (John 6:60) and “after [hearing] this many of his disciples drew back and no longer went about with him.” (John 6:66). The Eucharist is not some magic wafer sprinkled with Holy fairy dust. Taking the Eucharist does not work like a vitamin that externally strengthens our faith; the act of taking it, and of submitting to the truth that we are accepting Christ into ourselves, is what deepens and strengthens our faith.

  2. This seems a very strange way to challenge your beliefs instead of respecting them, and just following his own. To receive the Eucharist is a truly Catholic belief that he seems to have a problem with you following… or why would he expect you to be so much better a Christian than he is? The fact that you are in a state of grace and therefore DO receive can only make you a better person for it, but who can or should judge what impact exactly who knows. If your husband can’t respect you as you are, then it’s HIS personal problem, not yours.

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