Will they still let me join the Church if I confess to an abortion?

By December 25, 2014 21 Comments

Full Question

I am a candidate and will be coming into the Church this Easter. My problem is that I have yet to make my first confession, and I am afraid of it because when I was 16, I had an abortion. I have regretted it every moment since. Will they still let me join the Church?


You have nothing whatsoever to fear. The priest is there to absolve you of your sins—not to condemn you. That sin will be forgiven and nothing that you say during your reception of the sacrament of penance (as confession is formally called) can be revealed. We call this the seal of confession. Any priest who breaks that seal would be automatically excommunicated from the Church. In any case, your entrance into the Catholic Church will not be denied.


  • jack says:

    Except in Louisiana. The court can order a priest to break the seal of confession.

  • the priest can absolve this person no more than I can. Only God can forgive sin. Only His blood can wash away our sin. So sad that so many fall for the deception of this false religion.

  • Bridget says:

    In that case the priest would have to not comply with the court order. This is nothing new: priests have sometimes been jailed or killed for refusing to break the seal of confession. St. John of Nepomuk is considered the first of these martyrs. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_of_Nepomuk

  • Lea Leger says:

    Once the priest break the seal of confession, he will be excommunicated by the Church. The court can order a priest to break a seal of confession but the prest will not do it. Did the priest break the seal of confession? No.

  • Mark says:

    The Priest will absolve you of your sins, if you are truly sorry for having committed them. Make a list of all your sins and confess them. If you remember a sin that you have not confessed at a later date, confess as soon as you can. Jesus wants you to come to his Church, the Roman Catholic Church.

  • fgilroy50 says:

    St. John 20: 23 Whose sins you shall forgive, they are forgiven them; and whose sins you shall retain they are retained.

  • william neal says:

    “be not afraid” and welcome home.

  • ddo1961 says:

    question asked to and answered by the wrong group. The true church of Jesus Christ is not the roman catholic church. The rcc has no part in the body of Christ.

    • manny says:

      What a pity on you. You keep on maligning the only church that Christ built which is the One, Holy, Apostolic and Catholic Church. No other church can claim that. It has been proven throughout ages but many refuses to acknowledge this truth because they refuse to do so for various reasons that suits them. May the Holy Spirit enlighten you and your likes.

    • Natalie says:

      Ignorant !!!

  • Carol says:

    I am replying to the topic/question posed here from a post abortive woman who is about to enter the Catholic Church. This is not the venue to take a cheap shot at the Catholic Church.
    I am a post abortive woman. The only prerequisite to joining the catholic church is, as you have learned in RCIA, to be in a state of grace – free from sin. We reach this state by confessing our sins in the confessional to Christ’s representative on earth, an ordained priest. By admitting that we have committed a grave sin in violation of the ten commandments and seeking forgiveness within the confessional, we become in a state of grace. But I know, because I have been where you are, that this is not enough. So after Easter, please look for a Rachel’s Vineyard in your area. On this weekend retreat, you will feel the love and mercy, the forgiveness of Our Lord. This is where you will find the road to forgiveness of self – probably the hardest forgiveness for a post abortive person to achieve. In the meantime I recommend that you find a quiet place and ask forgiveness of your child.
    Welcome my sister!

  • Natalie says:

    Well said !

  • God cares for you and would forgive and accept you because He knows what you have been through and knows your sadness. We know this because the Bible says He came to save and not to destroy and to take away the sins of the world. He longs after you. You don’t have to worry in that area, He is there for you, just tell Him. If you want to tell a priest, ok, but truly nothing compares to actually talking with God and telling Him and asking straight from Him. He really cares and is the One who can truly give you peace.
    I had a friend who had also gone through the trauma of having an abortion and I am sure it is something she will never forget, but at the same time, one night as we were all together in a group during a youth meeting, she shared with us how God had really comforted her and provided for her and made her realize she was forgiven and she can’t wait to see her baby when Jesus comes back again and we go with Him to heaven, and now, with her children, they are all the more valuable to her.

  • Ellen Dunlop says:

    Dear Sister,
    I was 16 and force into getting an abortion. I always felt that the Lord would never forgive. I to was not Catholic at the time. 6 years ago I went to the Catholic Church and ask to join. I went though the RCIA. I am a Catholic now. I confessed my sins. I went for counseling with the Priest. Which helped me a lot. See I was 43 when I did this. It was the best move I ever made. Sister the Priest told me that may baby is save in heaven wrap in the arms of Jesus and is waiting for us to be together. The Priest a sure me that the Lord Jesus has forgive me. That I don’t have to carry this weight around no more. I sure hope this had help you Sister. I also help teach the RCIA.. If you need more information here is my email ellencharlenedunlop@gmail.com God Bless you and your family always sending Blessings love hugs and prayers to you Sister.

  • Roswitha Alverdes says:

    Can’t the Catholic church excommunicate for for the sin of abortion?

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