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Was it possible for Jesus to have been romantically attracted to Mary Magdalene?



Romantic attraction is a normal human emotion. As Jesus was fully man, it was within the realm of possibility that he experienced it. Scripture tells us that Jesus experienced normal human emotions such as anger (John 2:14–17), love (John 11:5), grief (John 11:32–35), and joy (Luke 10:21). He also experienced normal human desires such as hunger (Matt. 21:18), thirst (John 4:7; 19:28), and the desire for rest (John 4:6). Nevertheless, there are certain things we have to keep in mind.

Rightly ordered emotions draw a person to fulfill a rightly ordered need or desire. Rightly ordered romantic attraction draws a person into marriage. Jesus was not only without sin but also without concupiscence (the inclination toward sin that is a consequence of original sin), so he did not suffer disordered romantic attraction. Jesus’ mission did not include marriage to a human being—his bride is the Church (Eph. 5:25–33)—so there was no apparent purpose for him to feel romantic attraction. Therefore, while we cannot know with certainty, it is unlikely he felt romantic attraction for Mary Magdalene or any other woman.

Scripture does not mention or imply that Jesus was romantically attracted to or involved with anyone. He was focused on his mission of saving mankind.


  • Pete Parks says:

    I love this site.

  • Mike Langlois says:

    Makes sense to me. Well explained. If you believe Jesus is God and if you believe that God is self-sufficient, he would have no need of a romantic relationship to feel fulfilled.

  • baldo says:

    The Poem of the Man-God clarifies the relationship of the Magdalene with Christ.

  • ranisama says:

    Jesus Knew he was going to die soon. Even had he experienced an attraction to a human woman, there’s no way he would have married one, knowing for a fact she would be a widow very, very soon.

  • What Scripture DOES mention, however, is that Jesus “was tempted IN ALL WAYS as we are, yet without sin.” [Heb. 4:15] Does this mean He was tempted with a physical attraction to Mary Magdalen? …or any woman for that matter? Well, ask yourself if you have ever been tempted physically by the opposite sex, and then wonder what the phrase “in all ways” means.

  • Linda says:

    This is the best explanation of concupiscence. I’ve heard the explanation before, but it just never clicked. Jesus would not have a “disordered” attraction to Mary Magdalen, because he couldn’t. Sleep, hunger, anger, love, can or can not be disordered. In our Lord’s case, he couldn’t have a disordered reaction, because he is both God and man. Since he was fully human, he would have the regular emotions, just not the disordered emotions..or attachments or what ever you want to call the. Not sure why everyone wants to think of Jesus as having “the hots for Mary Magdalen” He has given us so much, I don’t need to think he’s like me (getting turned on by Mark Harmon or David Tennant, talk about disordered!!!) He was fully divine, fully human, and that is enough to keep me contemplating for the rest of my life. Thank you sweet Lord, I can’t get enough.

    • Concerning concupiscence, Martin Luther once said, “I cannot prevent birds from flying over my head, but I CAN prevent them from building a nest in my hair.” Concupiscence is allowing birds to build a nest in one’s hair. You use the word ’emotion’. What Jesus experienced was ‘temptation.’ If we can agree that your ’emotion’ is the same as ‘temptation’, and that your ‘disordered emotion’ is the same as your reference to ‘concupiscence’ (or we can introduce ‘lust’), then I think we are on the same page… and you are right… His being both human and divine is a mystery that will keep us all occupied as well for a very long time!

  • There you go people! “Doubt” that’s our Biggest sin like Peter, But not our Lord, He can read our Mind.

  • hermi says:

    And that is very well explained…. thank you.

  • Victor says:

    Just because there were temptations on Jesus did not mean that He acted on them. Jesus is God. And even if we say that He is also 100% man, we are not talking about just a man. I know a lot of people dedicated to the faith, honesty, loyalty, celebacy, etc, who fully fulfill their mission and never act out or give in to temptation. Since the Holy Spirit can give us grace to stand up for Christ, especially during temptations, you better believe it that in addition to the fact that He never had sinful actions, He was never corrupted in thoughts as well.

  • Ogni Momento says:

    What I don’t understand about these comments is how anyone can know for sure. He came as a man to experience. We know that she was very important to him and really that is all that matters. What should only matter to us, is that he died for our sins. What difference does it make about physical contact he had , it isn’t something that can ever be proven or disproved.

    • There are things in Scripture that we just accept on faith… not blind faith, but a faith that looks into the darkness of the unknown and believes based on what the whole of Scripture indicates. It is true that our response to His dying for our sins is the most important direction our life will take — both here on earth and for whatever will be the next great thing, but if we dismiss all the other indicators of how Jesus’ lived His life while here on earth, we will mitigate or neuter or diminish the completeness of God’s work in us — which is to shape us into the image of Christ. Simply put, if we dismiss as unimportant OUR BELIEF that Jesus had a physical relationship with Mary, then we may dismiss those kinds of relationships in our own life as well. His purity leads to our own purity — whether pre-marital, marital or extra-marital.

  • bro chong says:

    May the Lord Jesus forgive àll of you, because the standard of the Lord about lust is in Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
    Please read and study carefully with Bible.

    • bro chong :: read ALL of the Bible. ‘Temptation’ is feeling the attraction. This means you are at a crossroads where one road leads to purity and the other to sin. The road pointing to sin is ‘lust’. Walking down this road means you are actively committing adultery in your heart… or put another way, it is allowing your mind to create a desire that longs to be fulfilled. Read ALL of scripture. It tells us that Jesus found Himself at this crossroads many times, but ALWAYS took the road leading to purity. Jesus NEVER lusted.

  • AJ says:

    this is an excellent site I have learned and clarified many questions. Keep up the good work!.

  • Maria says:

    was mary magdalene a young woman or an old woman, who was pardoned of her life of sin prior to meeting Jesus

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